So This Is Where Are We Now…(Chronicles In Online Dating-cont’d)

Posted by Bria on Oct 10, 2008 in Life & Love, Love, Online Dating Chronicles, Paul and Bree, Swirlicious... |

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So…we are here.We have reached a place where we are very comfortable with each other.We spoke on the phone last night for an hour, and I was very happy to speak with him-as we only talk about maybe 3x’s a week  due to our biz schedules.  He goes to bed early, and wakes up early. Me…I’m up til 2, 3am. sigh   He makes up for it by sending me emails everyday at 4:30 in the morning…right b4 he goes to work.I must admit, I’ve come a long way (in this short time) in that I was gripped by fear and wanted to run the other way-and I almost did.  But Paul unlike other men in my past remained calm and said “ No Bree. I want you  to run TOWARDS me, and not away from me.”  No one’s ever told me that before.  I accepted the challenge.  And this is the 1st relationship I haven’t run from.Understandably there are those who understand and support this type of relationship, and there are those who don’t.  How do you explain to understand a situation that people really don’t want to understand? lol  U don’t!

 So we are still here.  Together.  In two weeks it will be two mos…wow!

For me: a person who formerly had an aversion to relationships: this long distance relationship- that affords us the opportunity to laugh (at the way we met), be patient (can’t see each other at this moment), learn (how’s the weather there?), grow (I know I can’t have what I want now, but I know it’s worth the wait), maintain my sense of self (he’s down south, I’m up here in MI…I still have a life), seriously think about our future (he ain’t going nowhere!), gifts (we just exchanged addresses for Xmas gifts! lol) etc. 

We’re in a good place.  A very good place.  When I least expect it, I get a text from him-saying he’s thinking of me.  And my goodness…he is such a gentle, kind soul.  To quote Palin: ‘Gosh darn it’-he is just a really great guy.  And it’s hard getting used to someone who’s nice.  He’s confident in his and my ability to see this relationship through.  He’s not negative at all…eventhough I have been selfish in wanting more ofhis time-I admit it-and he gives it…as long as it’s not near 10:30pm lol (a few exceptions) he goes to bed! lol  There’s something to be said about these older guys, lol (he’s only a couple of years older than me!)  So that’s it.  Boring I know.  But it’s ok.  I like it, and that’s all that matters.  Although he’s white and I’m black-racial issues just is not …an issue.  I am curious as to how that’ll work when we’re out and about together?  Let’s save the hard ish for later.  I’m out-I gotta get ready to go to work!

TGIF PEOPLE!!!

—Bria

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